Before my first son was born, I remember seeing other parents in the supermarket shouting at their children when they were misbehaving. At the time, I naively thought that when I am a mother, I won't be doing that.
Fast forward three children later, and yes I have my moments where the stress of simply going to the supermarket, whilst seeing to your children’s needs, whilst trying to get something for tonight’s dinner, can mean it all mounts up and an overwhelming stress and frustration takes over.
As a parent, stress can manifest from small everyday things such as, just getting out the house on time for an appointment, to comparing yourself to other mothers (lets face it, we have all done it).
Being a stay at home mum is a stressful job, from the moment we wake up in the morning until the time we go to bed, we are constantly organising, tidying up, feeding, arguing and arranging. There is no 9-5 job over here! But being a mother is a different kind of stress to working in an office.
Sometimes, every day can merge into one, and if you don’t get out of the house it can feel like you're staring at the same four walls every day. Motherhood is physically and mentally tough. We not only have to look after ourselves, but our children too and the majority of the time, putting them before our own needs.
I know for me, stress can be a build up out of little things, something as small as trying to get three little ones to get there shoes, coats and school bags and get out the house on time. To someone that doesn’t have children, they may think this is an easy task, but trust me it's really not.
Every mother has their good days and bad days. When I’m physically feeling drained from the intensity of motherhood, I find just doing one thing for myself in the day can really make me feel better. It can be anything from reading a chapter of my book to painting my nails. Whatever it is, just find that ten minutes in the day to just focus on yourself. You’ll be surprised how much it can relieve a bit of stress. Another tip is to focus on the moments that you find most stressful, ie dinner time. Try prepping the food earlier in the day which means you will have one less thing to stress about.
Author credit: Natalie Lauren