• Laura Monkman

'Over time, I grew in confidence and knew I was capable of loving this child enough on my own&#3


From as long as I can remember, I have always known that I wanted to be a Mum, and I decided that if I hadn’t met Mr. Right by the time I was 30, I’d become a solo/single Mum.

When my 30th arrived and I told friends and family about my plans, they all commented about being brave, but for me it wasn’t a brave decision at all. It just felt right! And as it happens, it was the best decision I have ever made! Thanks to the amazing staff at The London Women’s Clinic, I fell pregnant by ivf with donor sperm in November 2016. I felt so elated and couldn’t believe that my dream was coming true! However, it wasn’t all magical and amazing, as in the early stages of pregnancy I was riddled with guilt! I couldn’t believe that I was going to bring a little life into the world and her only family would be me! This child was already at a disadvantage before she was even born, and it was my fault! However, over time I grew in confidence and knew I was capable of loving this child enough, and I began to believe what I had always known; that any family set up, filled with love, trust and openness is more than enough for any child to thrive!

And the truth is, I’m not bringing Sienna up alone, we have an amazing support network made up of close family and friends, who all love Sienna and I. It definitely takes a village to raise a child! Ensuring Sienna has good male role models in her life was something I also felt would be absolutely vital to her development and wellbeing! But again, she is very lucky to have a wonderful Grandad, Uncle and God Father to look up to!

My hopes for the future are to extend our family and to hopefully give Sienna a sibling, when she is a little older! However, if this is not possible, Sienna has made me so happy and I am so fulfilled already! I also plan to be very open about Sienna’s donor Daddy, teaching her about what an amazing selfless man he was!

He will always be a big part of our family despite not being present!

Author credit: Laura Monkman