Confessions of a LAWNMOWER MUM
‘There was a time not so long ago, when a fleeting incident in a soft play evoked what the media today would probably call a ‘lawnmower mum’ moment.
My toddler was playing happily, until 3 bigger boys decided to go up to him and push him over in an unprovoked incident.
My instinctive reaction was to then spend the remainder of our time in the soft play trying to ensure a wide birth was maintained between my son and said boys.
It seemed like the right thing to do, to stay one step ahead and reduce any chance for further conflict. However, according to development experts, ‘mowing’ down too many challenges and over-smoothing the learning path can leave children ill equipped to deal with adversity in later life. When they haven’t had the opportunity to learn to adapt to challenging situations, the impact on their long term development (and the chances of an unhealthy sense of ‘entitlement’) are significant.’ 🤷♀️Theres one problem though... This kind of ‘mama bear’ protective behaviour often has a biological basis. Resisting ‘lawnmower mum’ status can, therefore, be easier said than done. Also, we live in increasingly informed times with regards to dangers and threats, and from this stance the new wave of parenting styles (Helicopter, Tiger Mom and Bulldozer to name but a few) could be seen by some as a form of natural evolution.
What’s everyone’s thoughts? How do you avoid crossing the fine line between preparing your child for the road, instead of the road for your child?